It hits you like an electric shock.
Your dream girl…
She’s looking at you.
This is your chance.
If you don’t know what to do when a girl looks at you, you’re not alone. A lot of guys don’t.
You worry that you’ll creep her out—you might even worry that you’ll get yourself called out for sexual harassment, punched, or arrested.
In fact, a woman who’s creeped out is much more likely to just stand there uncomfortably and hope you go away because she’s too scared of you to do anything else. But that should still worry you—both as a gentleman and as a man who wants success with women. Even if you would never overstep a strange woman’s boundaries, enough men do that women in public tend to be on guard.
Just because a woman looks at you, doesn’t mean she automatically wants to mate. She could just be looking at you because you’re a human being and that’s what human beings do. She’s assessing the situation—not telling you she wants to get with you.
So should you just avoid her eyes? Ignore her?
No. If a woman looks at you, and you’re attracted to her, look back!
Just know the right way to look at her, and you won’t come off as a creep. Today I’m going to teach you the exact technique to put her at her ease – plus three bonus tips to make you the man with the sexy eyes.
How To Meet A Woman’s Eyes
#1. Make the decision. Look back—or choose not to. If you’re a married man or she’s not your type, and she’s giving you glances, you may not want to look back at all. But for most men, it’s a very hard thing not to do, because we like to feel good. Even if you’re married, you like to feel you’ve still got what it takes.
You also wonder—what’s going on? Maybe she knows me? Especially if she’s being a little bit aggressive – it’s only happened to me a few times, but it does happen. So do you want to look back, or do you want to ignore her?
#2. Make a decision that you can smile. That disarms people—they tend to smile back. There’s nothing wrong with smiling at another person—you can do this with a guy!
‘Smize’ is a term coined by Tyra Banks for ‘smile with your eyes’. When your heart’s in your mouth, it’s easy to forget to put your smile in your eyes. Smirking awkwardly while your eyes show all the humor and happiness of a rabbit in headlights is not a good look – especially since it’s your eyes she’s looking at.
Try it in front of the mirror and you’ll see the difference between a smile that reaches your eyes and one that never gets past your nose. You can even ‘smize’ with your eyes alone—a masculine look that suggests a warm heart glowing just for her under your tough and cool exterior.
#3. Look to make a second eye contact. Two seconds is plenty. Many times we only go for a fraction of a second—if you want to see if she’s interested you want 1-2 seconds. Don’t go over this—that’s when you get into creepiness territory.
A woman looking at you doesn’t have to be stressful. The more you get used to this technique, the more you can relax, be confident, and enjoy it. And the more you do that, the more naturally attractive you’ll be.
Smiling And Eye Contact Increase Attraction – The Proof
If you’ve been following me for a while, you’ll know that I like to bring science into everything. There’s hard empirical data behind this technique.
A 2005 study showed that we perceive people as more attractive when they shift their direction of gaze towards us and make eye contact with us. (That might be why you’re suddenly so interested in her, too.)
Another study revealed that eye contact AND smiling together are more attractive than eye contact OR smiling alone. And as I’ve explained in a previous article, smiling literally makes your face look better.
It’s hypothesized that we’re just wired to like people who like us. After all, if Ug the caveman picks Uggette, who gets butterflies every time she sees him, over Uggabella, who’s more interested in her pet rocks, he’s a lot more likely to have descendants.
Bonus Tips To Supercharge Your Eye-Fu
1. Sticky Eyes
Sounds unattractive, but ‘sticky eyes’ can make a woman melt. When you look away from her, turn your head away first, but let your gaze linger a moment longer. The impression this gives is that you find her so desirable it’s hard to tear your eyes away from her—but you respect her too much to gawk.
2. Look Confident—But Not Too Cocky
Unless you’re Harrison Ford, there is such a thing as looking too cocky.
Most women won’t appreciate your ‘heh heh heh, I see you checking me out’ face.That’s the behavior of an immature boy who’s insecure about his masculinity. Be a man and meet her eyes with a quiet confidence that says, ‘You’re beautiful—and we’d be beautiful together.’
3. Read Her Signals (Does She Like You?)
Hold the wishful thinking. A quick polite smile may be just that: politeness. Women are taught to smile in social situations much more than men.
And if she looks away when you make eye contact, she might be uninterested—or she might just be shy, flustered, and thinking ‘What Do I Do When A Guy Looks At Me?’
If she looks away and then looks back for another peek…
If she holds your gaze for a couple of seconds…
And especially if she smiles while looking into your eyes…
she’s probably into you. (And she might have read this article, too.)
So NOW What Do I Do?
You can strike while the iron’s hot and approach her now; you can play it cool, finish whatever you’re doing, and stroll up to her when you’re good and ready; or you can do nothing. You don’t have to hit on her if you’re not that interested—you can just enjoy the moment of flirtation and move on.
And Finally… A Disclaimer
The techniques I’ve given you today are powerful, but they’re not foolproof. At the end of the day, women are people, not computers. Every woman has her own turn-ons and hang-ups, so while there are some things that most women are into, there’s no substitute for being alert to her feelings and respecting them.
In that article I mentioned on how to talk to women, I’ll teach you the clear body signals that a woman sends when she’s not feeling comfortable and needs you to cool it – as well as more signals that the atmosphere is getting hot…
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