Is it a fat wallet?
Is that all you need?
According to whiny, bitter men on social media, yes.
I won’t say having it hurts…
But come on!
You’re better than that.
You know that you can’t win a woman just by flinging money at her.
You want women to DESIRE you as a man.
I read the comments on my YouTube videos. I know what you guys are saying. You’re right that money does matter – and I’m not going to say that having it is a bad thing, nor that it’s irrelevant in relationships. After all, the number 1 cause of divorce in the U.S. is disagreements over money.
But let’s get to why you clicked on this. What truly makes a man attractive to women?
A practiced, multimodal approach to presenting yourself with confidence.
I know that’s a bit of a mouthful. Read on and I’ll explain.
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#1. What Does Multimodal Mean?
A multimodal approach means understanding that there’s more than one mode of attraction. It’s multi-faceted, and it’s not only visual. It also depends on how you sound and smell. In other words, there are three key factors that determine your attractiveness.
For this reason, don’t restrict yourself to a one-dimensional approach. As men, we tend to focus in on the visuals and forget the importance of smell and sound. Give these other two the attention they deserve.
Start by finding yourself a few signature scents. It’s common knowledge nowadays that smell is the sense most closely linked with memory. Be remembered… fondly. Try a wide variety of different fragrances. Instead of having just one signature scent, build a collection till you have one for each type of occasion – something for day, something for night, something for a date, maybe something for work. Remember, gentlemen: attraction isn’t just about not smelling bad – it’s also about smelling good and sending that message that you want to send.
When it comes to your voice, get rid of crutch words. Work on cultivating a more manly voice. If you’ve got an accent, consider losing it if you think it might be holding you back. On the other hand, an accent can sometimes work to your advantage.
Here in the United States, if you are from England, we think you’re smart. If you’re from Australia, we think you’re a fun guy who’s always up for a party. If you have a Russian or a Ukrainian accent, we think you’re a bad guy. The sad truth is, Hollywood has programmed Americans to believe in these stereotypes. And we’ve taken the bait.
Every culture has stereotypes associated with it – its own set of pigeonholes, so to speak. When you take control of the message you send, you’ll find that you can get pigeonholed consistently as intelligent, attractive, successful, and someone women want to be around.
#2. Practice Builds Confidence
I know trying to appeal to EVERY sense means dealing with a lot of variables – but it’s something that you can practice. Check out my Science of Style section for tons of useful tips on how to use the psychology of the senses to attract women. Of course you can’t always control, say, the way the environment smells – but you can control how you smell (please tell me you bathe regularly and use deodorant!). What you can also do is be confident, know what you stand for, and send your message with intention.
That’s one reason why men who are a little older really attract women – because they’re confident. They’re comfortable in their own skin. They’ve developed and they’ve had experience – they’ve taken the time to actually figure out what they stand for. They know and like who they are.
It’s not about just grabbing pieces here or there – haphazardly piecing together a Frankenstein costume and then trying to wear it. It’s about developing confidence. You do this when you consistently practice a multimodal approach to how you present yourself and send the message you want to send.
#3. Own Your Style
A bit vague, right? Fear not, we’re breaking it down for you.
Here’s a quick example: texture makes you more attractive. Wearing something textured, like a soft cashmere sweater, will make women want to come up and touch you. Women find a man that they touch more approachable and more attractive. Does that mean you should sweat in cashmere when it’s hot outside? Of course not. Linen and cotton do the job just as well from June till September. Just keep your clothing textured.
Additionally, your style has to be authentically yours. It’s of no use (and often obvious!) when it’s not. Carrying around a guitar, for example, might make you look attractive – but if you try to use it when you don’t play guitar you’re going to have a really bad time. Whatever you do to look attractive, you’ve got to own it and feel comfortable with it as part of your style.
If you’ve been around here for a while you’ll know I LOVE sports jackets – I’ve talked extensively about how they build up the shoulders and can make any man look great. But if YOU don’t like them, find a signature item that works for you – maybe a leather jacket, a vest, a cashmere sweater. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as you feel like a million bucks when you wear it
At the end of the day, you want to use attraction to get what you want out of life. I don’t know what that is – but if you’ve read this far I know that you’re a man on a mission. You want to use the message you send to your advantage. So take action – there’s all kinds of great info on attraction here at RMRS. Have a look around. Do you research. Make the most of it.
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